Posted: 2017-12-07 15:56
I never go for 9"s, or 65''s. Usually, they have issues. They know their "hot". I, one time met a above average looking woman and she ended up being a compulsive liar and had other issues. Another one used guys for their money. I''m older 56 and go never go for any women below 99. It appears that you women want tall, dark, handsome CEO types of men, or looking for Brad Pitts''s of the world needs to get realistic. Also, I notice the shorter the woman are like 5''5" are wanting these 5''8 tall or taller guys to feel "protected" are overlooking us shorter guys who can make them feel secure and protected. I was a successful wrestler and coach. And can provide that.
So yeah we 8767 re on the same page I 8767 m writing to an all female audience when I write, though I know guys do read the site, so I generally weigh my focus towards what the women are internally/emotionally struggling with before tackling anything a guy might be going through since usually the readers can 8767 t hear anything else until I put out the flames of their emotional pain on any particular subject.
I have been reading your articles and you keep saying, wear makeup and be feminine. I used to wear makeup but recently, there has been such a hype going around that men like women with no makeup at all. Apparently they think when you put makeup on, either you are hiding something or trying too hard, which comes off as a turn off. Do you agree? I used to love wearing makeup but now I hardly wear any, im scared that men will think im trying too hard. And I know how much is too much, I just like enhancing my best features. So my question to you is what makeup look do you think is sexy, playful, nice? Do you think women are trying too hard when they put makeup on? How much would be too much in your opinion?
Yes, I could go look at men 8767 s magazines, but I want to hear your opinion! 🙂
Thanks Eric, genuinely love reading your articles, and love your philosophy about life, I couldn 8767 t agree more.
First off it is important to recognize that those in positions of prestige will seek to maintain their position and furthermore will seek to promote the inclusion of their offspring into similar positions. Secondly our education system isn''t so much a system of learning as it is a system of training. For our society to function we require managers and workers. If our education system really sought to equalize knowledge our current system would cease to exist. Instead our education system is designed to separate gifted from normal students as potential managers versus the working class.
I 8767 m already trying to make up excuses, 8766 Oh she 8767 s probably just a friend 8767 and 8766 I didn 8767 t properly see him, maybe it wasn 8767 t him 8767 It was him, I haven 8767 t spoken to him since he stood me up, it was another girl. While I struggle with my self to stop asking what I did wrong I just wanted to thank you for your time and advice. Your articles are helping me realise my self worth.
Women dont send dick pics to guys. That''s why we are not creepy. If men didn''t immediately make everything sexual they might have better luck. I never get guys that ask me about my interest or hobbies. A lot of the men are their own worst enemy. Its their APPROACH that is not working. Guys rant in their profiles. They have few good clear photos or they choose photos with other women in there (and dont crop them out). Most guys put very little effort into their profiles and then they are shocked women aren''t interested. I''ve also had guys get angry because I didn''t respond FAST enough. A lot of men come across as bitter, self-absorbed, shallow, perverted, womanizer. They can be the nicest person but if they display any of those qualities they wont get the time of day.
Then I started talking to my female friends. They all had pretty good conversation rates, getting anywhere from 5-75 messages per day. And their conversations tended to last if they wanted it to. What I realized was the dynamic was completely different women naturally start becoming a lot more arbitrarily selective because of this constant initiation. If you don''t stand out with your picture as a man you''re doomed to failure: all the Marissa''s in the world will think of the best looking man that they''ve slept with, say "given the field I can do better", and move on without a second thought. Whether or not you would be a great fit, whether or not you''re a secret agent or a millionaire. It''s totally arbitrary.
Lastly for some people even if you get prospective buyers to look beyond your pictures, and look at your profile or message you, you may just not be a good writer and that can SUUUUCCCKKK in on-line dating. SO my advice is get some help writing your profile and somewhere in the profile or in your messages say something along the lines of, "I''ve never been good are writing what I want to say I much better person to person". And get to the date as soon as possible. NEVER write, "I don''t know what to say/put here." Never.
Hi Eric! Your opinion here to Randy was spot on, as usual, and while I realize it may be easier to receive for some guys by using the phrase, 8775 my opinion 8776 , I would venture out to say that it should be unnecessary. Your opinion matters and has validity to Randy and all of us who read your articles and are furthermore subscribed. Please keep pouring it out of yourself to us, I mean just my opinion! 😉
Hi- question: I 8767 ve always been in very good shape and taken care of myself but the last 6 months things got hectic and I gained a few lbs. it 8767 s in my belly area and I hate it!! Im getting my act together and intent on loosing it ASAP but I 8767 ve met a guy who is in great shape! I know he 8767 s interested and he compliments me but he hasnt seen me naked yet. I 8767 m so nervous for that moment. Is it possible he will all
If sudden be grossed out by a few extra pounds? I 8767 m by no means fat and still fit just have a little extra in the belly that I typically don 8767 t have. I 8767 ve already told him I 8767 m not in the shape I like to be in, etc. any other advice in how to feel confident in bed, if we get that far? Thanks Nikki
I know I am not the only guy to have a girl turn me down with hurtful comments after leading you on and thinking you should have just realized she was not interested and gave up. Thing is you couldn''t "take a hint", but we are adults here and those are games kids play. No need for hints, you can be nice and find a more reasonable time to let a guy down, but don''t wait weeks and then get angry with him because you never made your intentions clear. Because the girls don''t realize, its not that obvious for the guy to see she is trying to put off signals that she lacks interest. We will, in even the more extreme cases, often focus on the few positive over the negatives to keep up our optimism, until its written out in plain english to us, "I flattered, but no thank you." Its easy, just text that and don''t worry, even if you look like Anna Kendricks the guy is unliekly to hang himself over the news.
He does exist. He comes to the village, impregnates all women and goes away. To another village. Then he comes back next year. Women are programmed to have children with the best men they can find. That''s natural selection. I''m not blaming anyone. The rest of life is a bunch of different stories, some are funny, some are happy but half of them are sad. And now because of the computers are running dating scene, we have data to prove it. I think that this is first stage, we just noticed that something is wrong.
As a guy who''s more successful in online dating than most men I just wanted to share my experience. I know, I''m technically adding to the very problem I''m complaining about by dating and sleeping with women I''m not attracted to. But, can you blame me if that''s usually all I can get online? Meet us halfway, you might find a guy who is amazing and will treat you with love and respect. There is a clear divide in what men and women can attain in terms of physical attractiveness online.
It’s increasingly difficult to do anything on your phone nowadays without sharing your geolocation information. Certain Snapchat filters, Facebook status updates, Instagrams, and even text messages are all potentially tied to geolocation data. It’s relatively simple for app developers to build in geolocation functionality—and many services require users to opt-in to sharing location data. But now the state of Illinois wants ensure that all companies extracting geolocation data from individuals must provide an opt-in, or else they’ll have to pay up.
Interesting read. I was debating putting up a profile or perhaps going to a club with some live entertainment. I am going to bed instead lol. It is very true that 65 to 65 years ago online dating worked well. I am an average looking guy but intelligent and funny and I was floored how many interesting, and yes pretty ok I would like someone that I consider to be pretty, not necessarily the text book version either. Anyway, teachers, lawyers, security guards, nurses, there I was dating, where previously I would stand in a bar and not say anything because my voice is very low and you couldn''t hear me over the music anyway.
Yes I am older now and I have my daughter half time, but I am still an average looking very intelligent and funny man. I am not bitter, disappointed maybe. I am affected by the lack of responses though, not like jump off a bridge affected, but it does drop you down a notch psychologically. I am glad I read these posts. It sounds like many of us are in the same boat. God bless all of you even the bitter ones we all know that hurt people want to hurt other people.
Okay, but now I try to focus on the article while I 8767 m writing, I can say so many things that actually don 8767 t have anything to do with the actual subject. I literally copied the whole text into a word-document and put notes under it. The steps I 8767 m going to take, the things I have to change, the things I have to keep in mind. If you like, I could write down my experiences as soon as I got to try out the steps.
Dear Joyful, So the grass was greener on the other side of the fence and you were so available, and now that he has had a taste of someone beside the mrs. he will want to explore to see what else is out there and you will become the rebound. I have also been so good at this, experience here writing this letter to you. As these people here will tell you (and me) it 8767 s the chase he is after and he already caught you .(and me). Now I sit back and wait for them to make ALL the moves and keep bridging, dating other guys stay busy with your life and you will be more what he saw the first time he saw you. I think MR Right who I met over 6 months ago is finally realizing what he has found in me, but he finds me with plans already made for the weekend coming up Hang in, don 8767 t be cold, just be really busy with your girl friends and don 8767 t throw these other guys in his face.
I''ve tried POF and am currently using OkCupid. I''ve gotten to speak with a few women, but only have met one outside of the digital world and we found that we didn''t really connect. Which is my main problem thus far with the sites lack of connection. I can think of plenty of reasons why women wouldn''t respond to me, but for those who do, we just can''t seem to connect. Eventually, we seem to run out of things to chat about, and the conversations die off.
Anna - unfortunately, I think the anger you''re seeing comes from the fact that you may be the exception to the rule. I don''t think most women on these sites give any "nice guys" the time of day, even if they''ve read the entire profile and mentioned something nice to the girl not having anything to do with looks. Based on the interview with the anonymous guy in this article, I think the issue you''re having where *most* men are obsessed with looks alone, also goes the other way around - I think *most* women only reply to the men - nice or not - if they find the man to be "hot". I think everyone is to blame for being overly superficial, to be honest.
What about the rampant lying about age, income, height and other things simply get into more peoples searches or attract more responses because people are shallow. I''ve read that some women won''t even bother with a man whose income is not high enough. LOL! So men lie about it try and get a shot and then it of course tanks. Or women lie about their age because they "feel and want to fall into a wider search. And then the man finds out.