Posted: 2017-12-07 14:00
Today, I 8767 m actually super interested in another girl here in Medellin. She 8767 s also very hard working, she 8767 s more of a loose cannon than Jessica, meaning she 8767 s a little more extroverted and opinionated, but that 8767 s exactly the kind of girl I like. I 8767 m definitely taking it slower with her, have been on 7 dates with her and kissed her only once. I 8767 m making a conscious effort to be a complete gentleman and to get to know her well.
heres what you don''t understand. you and other women have the luxury to sit there and say "EVERY person who wrote to me" men are putting in ALL the same effort and then the added effort of being the one who has to scroll through profiles for hours and send the messages. worry if they are saying the right or wrong thing. meanwhile you can sit there and judge all the men and all the messages you are receiving. the hostility comes from the blissful ignorance that women have about this. it comes off as something like going to the sudan and telling the starving people living there why you don''t like tacos or that if a waiter brings you a steak medium rare you send it back. try to wrap your head around that.
This does a few things psychologically when you approach it is often awkward as most women really know (if not suspect) why you are really there. Mentioning that you know it is 8775 weird 8776 and 8775 a bit direct 8776 or 8775 a bit too forward 8776 has the effect of making it OK. If you bring the awkwardness to the surface it actually isn 8767 t a lingering thought int he back of their mind anymore as to 8775 why is this guy really here 8776 .
I meet women in Medellin by just living my life. Every day I see gorgeous women walking up and down the street. I go to the supermarket and I see beautiful women, I go get my hair cut and there 8767 s a breathtaking woman, I go eat lunch and I see an amazingly attractive woman. Do not even get me started on the gym, it is almost like a circus sideshow in there. Seeing beautiful women here is so common that Colombian men don 8767 t even turn to look, it 8767 s ridiculous. I 8767 ve been here 5 years and I 8767 m still floored at some of the women in my gym!
6) Always pay attention to the guy or to the alpha females in the group first. You are a stranger, an outsider to their group. If you don’t respect the authority of the person who is 8775 in charge 8776 when you approach, they can easily and justifiably cockblock you or tell you to back off for being an intruder. But when you respect the dominant person and gain their respect in turn, not only do you earn your place in the group, you earn the respect of the people watching including your target.
The female orgasm is very easy. Friction on clitoris. Mechanical, just like men''s. Since women are human beings just as men are, this is no surprise. Massages/candles not required. Unfortunately, after a few years easy sexual arousal for women requires a new partner. Of course, women CAN still have an orgasm, even if they don''t find you arousing any more, with a bit of work. Monogamy, though difficult for women, is possible.
Interesting idea, but not my experience. I get my fair share of messages.. on average, 5 a day. I''m pretty good looking by most standards, though I''m fully aware I''m not the most attractive, and I often find messages from men who are far less physically attractive than the men I''ve dated IRL (some of whom I''ve met online!) Of all the men, most find my profile interesting and say so, even if there''s a blatantly obvious comment (about interests, what we''re seeking, or looks) that should make it obvious that we aren''t compatible. It''s like they ignore it and try, anyway.
A few years ago I had a profile on okcupid. I uploaded a few decent pictures of myself. I received a lot of views and a decent amount of messages. A year ago I created a new profile on okcupid and uploaded one picture that makes it somewhat more difficult to tell what I look like. This time around I''ve received considerably less profile views and considerably less messages. I have no way of knowing how okcupid may treat my profile due to this difference but I have experienced enough to know that women just like men are swayed by physical appearance.
8. Clean Now you have entered with your friends, set a high social proof and confident presences. You have swapped the area, created a wave of pre-selection and scoped out your targets. Its time to clean house. At this point you want to begin engaging any lady that gave you any indicators of interest such as proximity, solid eye contact, smiled at you, etc. At any point of the night. Remember you can also merge sets together using my hurricane theory.
First, some theory on social psychology. There is no such thing as 9-set, or 5-set, etc. In fact, 8775 set 8776 is a term used in magic performances. Don 8767 t think about meeting women as approaching a 8775 set, 8776 because it puts you in a frame of performing for strangers. If you want to perform for strangers, at least put out a hat so people can throw change in it. But don 8767 t expect to have sex with anyone.
Then I started talking to my female friends. They all had pretty good conversation rates, getting anywhere from 5-75 messages per day. And their conversations tended to last if they wanted it to. What I realized was the dynamic was completely different women naturally start becoming a lot more arbitrarily selective because of this constant initiation. If you don''t stand out with your picture as a man you''re doomed to failure: all the Marissa''s in the world will think of the best looking man that they''ve slept with, say "given the field I can do better", and move on without a second thought. Whether or not you would be a great fit, whether or not you''re a secret agent or a millionaire. It''s totally arbitrary.
Are you into literature? Then you may want to give Alikewise a whirl. This is the site that helps you find interesting people who are interested in books just as you are. For instance, one of the entries on this website is a 55-year-old woman who is is an apparent fan of 8775 Animal Farm. 8776 A person has commented on the book, and she apparently has left her opinion of the comment he has made. Indeed, it is amazing what you can find out about a person who is into similar literature that you are. Also, you find out that many more people liked that particular book than you thought. Does sharing a common love of a certain literary work constitute good grounds for romance? Maybe not in itself, but it can be a start.
Often when I approach a woman in the middle of conversation, I 8767 ll say, 8775 Excuse me, I don 8767 t me to interrupt, 8776 or 8775 Am I interrupting? 8776 Nine times out of ten they say, 8775 Oh no, it 8767 s OK. 8776 then I either give a compliment to the woman I 8767 m interested in, or I simply lock eyes with her to show her I think she 8767 s sexy, and then ask her name. Simplicity works well for me, because there 8767 s a sexual intensity and social boldness behind it. With the direct approach, I 8767 ve found less does more.
Am I getting robbed here or not, Andrew? I cannot tell. It can be either way. Is it possible that she is just a liar, that she is instead on another cam site, that she writes this way to many other stupid Americans or Europeans (but four pages each to everyone every night?). Or is it true that she wanted the contact with me because I treated her so good already in the webcam chat room, and I was so understanding and encouraging?
After 6 months on various sites I''m finally signing out today - my advice to men is to just enjoy your single life and use your time productively on hobbies and interests and self improvement etc. - get out into the real world to meet people. You''ll probably be quite shocked if you keep a record of how many hours you spend trawling dating sites - I was when I decided to record my usage - One of the reasons that today is delete day - more time for fitness and reading.
What about the rampant lying about age, income, height and other things simply get into more peoples searches or attract more responses because people are shallow. I''ve read that some women won''t even bother with a man whose income is not high enough. LOL! So men lie about it try and get a shot and then it of course tanks. Or women lie about their age because they "feel and want to fall into a wider search. And then the man finds out.
Experience: Tinder is the cyber-equivalent of standing on a street corner, pointing at passers by, and asking “What about that one? What about that one? What about that one? What about that one?” to determine your next date. I’ve read article upon enthusiastic article about Tinder being the new big thing, and I get the appeal: maybe the one for you is a friend of a friend, just waiting to be discovered.
On rare occasions someone has shown a willingness to write something unique. A rare individual that is capable of thinking for themselves and doesn''t feel the need to be a carbon copy of what society tells us are our desirable traits. Of the hundreds of profiles I''ve viewed this past few years I have come across a handful (less than 65 and closer to 5) of women that stand apart from the crowd. That is a very desirable trait in my search.
Ah that really sucks. I can see why you 8767 re traumatized. My friends and I (all entrepreneurs) have been living here for over 6 years now. Not one has had that happened to them. There are also another 7,555 + foreigners living in Medellin and surrounding area I would speculate that a very low percentage have been done dirty. Rule number one if a girl looks out of your league, she 8767 s probably going to do you dirty.
Yes Mike, you are correct there are ignorant, racist people all over the world, including Medellin as you have proved. However, Rick, I do have a few friends that are Indian that have managed to make lots of friends and actually run businesses and lead a successful life here in Medellin: Sidhartha, owner of the restaurant Curry ( https:///CurryIndianCuisine/ ) being one of them.