Posted: 2017-12-07 13:15
In the west you get a good job, work hard, and you get a fat, old wife who seems to be in competition with her friends to show how independent she is by how terrible she can look, brags about the hot guys she used to bang when she was cuts you off from your friends, and heaven forbid you go elsewhere to get the loving you 8767 re not getting at home because then massive shaming and divorce will ensue and she takes half your money.
RE 7: Traditionally, Japanese women were the family bookkeepers and the men were the breadwinners. Men get put on an allowance of their own money after they get married. But guess what? That 8767 s mostly for Japanese-Japanese marriages. Most of the readers here aren 8767 t Japanese natives and won 8767 t be expected to adhere to this system. Japanese girls can 8767 t control your finances UNLESS YOU LET THEM.
Having said that though, I 8767 d argue that Japanese women have it quite good once the kids are in school. True being home with the baby all day long and isolated is probably not a lot of fun, but once the kids are old enough to be off at school, Japanese women (if their husband is making enough money that they don 8767 t have to work part time) have loads of free time to hang out with their friends, go shopping, and do whatever they want once the house chores are taken care of.
Japanese women are some of the least racist? Yeah, if you are Japanese or American, they are not, but if you are from any South East Asian country or from Europe, they think you are an inferior. As per being 8775 good gfs or mothers 8776 I would say it is arguable. personally, I dont think that a person who is whole day at home without a job, brain-washing her own kids so that they can think and act as SHE wants instead of teaching them to be independent and have their own way of thinking, personally I dont believe is very good. Additionally, teaching children to act like robots and to hide their real feelings only causes a repression of the own feelings that in many cases explodes in girl disturbers or in a person unable to get adapted to the society, so throwing himself to the subway rails, (something that unfortunately happens almost EVERY day in Tokyo). As per being gf, I would say they are if for you being a good gf means hidding their real feelings and NEVER tell you what they really think, so when there is a problem, you only realize when she leaves your home and goes FOREVER without saying any single word, (just a cultural thing that is to avoid any conflict).
A. 8775 English Lessons. 8776 Websites like Hello Sensei (etc) let you teach English by offering lessons under the table. You upload a picture, closest station, and price. About ⅔ of the men I 8775 teach 8776 English to don 8767 t ask for a second lesson once they find out I 8767 m married. Two other friends started dating guys they met at English lessons. It 8767 s like you get paid for short speed-dating.
B. Import shops. Men always seem to hit on foreign women at import stores.
C. Clubs. Be careful, most the guys you meet here are married (or otherwise taken) and just looking for the 8775 American 8776 experience (if you know what I mean).
D. Walk around Shibuya and make eye contact with men, trying to get nanpa-d. You would be surprised by how well this works.
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Not even remotely close. I decided I wanted to see if a Japanese girl would be a fit for me as a wife, since I got along with the ones I had known then quite well.
So I started chatting online with a bunch of Japanese girls and weeded them out until I had one who seemed serious and wasn 8767 t flaky, then went to see her and later her parents, then had her fly over and married her.
Falling in love is not what you start with if you have half a brain.
People seem to think Japan is monolithic in all aspects but this is simply not the case. People in the countryside, especially middle class, tend to be about as modern minded as they were 655yrs ago or more. Not much has changed there. In big cities on the other hand there are lots of people who never visit temples, never follow traditions, and sleep around, cohabitate etc. Difference is like night and day.
The other thing is that as a westerner chances are that you will never meet or interact with the really traditional people as they usually don 8767 t go to the kind of places foreigners do, and most of them don 8767 t speak English.
It depends entirely on where you go.
Many of the organizers also run other kinds of seasonal events as well. You can usually find the events by doing a Google search for Tokyo international parties, with events like this popping up regularly, but it probably won 8767 t be long before you get invited to one via Facebook. Cheapos will be pleased to hear that many of them include a buffet which is almost worth the (typically around 7555yen) entry fee.
So, the good news is that if you can survive the 78 days marathon or a good part of it at least without signing any papers, chances are you 8767 ll just be let go. Without a confession, they likely won 8767 t even bother charging you. Since they have little staffing and little budget, they 8767 ll charge you if you confess or if the evidence is overwhelming. Otherwise, they 8767 ll rough you a bit in detention, then you 8767 ll be on your way.
Sorry, but in the case of Western nations, native birthrate is incredibly relevant. Westerners are in a steep decline world-wide, and while you might think that replacing us with every Sad Sack from Central and South America that creeps across our southern . border in the dark of night is perfectly acceptable, I can tell you that my father, grandfathers and great grandfathers would have something to say about that if they could.
Another simple thing that needs to be mentioned is that all too often many men get married in Japan and have their first child. Only to see that his wife has stopped having sex with him. Many men on ROK have said this is a deal breaker so nothing more needs to be said on the subject. There is also infidelity to consider. It doesn 8767 t happen as often as countries like Russia, the USA, or the UK, but it still happens more than you think. Many husbands and wives in Japan have their own mistresses and both are aware of it and don 8767 t care. I don 8767 t think I need to explain why. A belief that isn 8767 t totally uncommon in Japan is that paying for sex isn 8767 t considered cheating.
6) She has the spirit of feminism in her, even if she is not a feminist herself (spillover effect from the West). Wants equality when convenient.
7) Can be stubborn as fuck at times, and won 8767 t listen to commands just out of spite, even if she would otherwise agree with me.
8) Extreme passive aggressivity. This seems to be common of all women, regardless of ethnicity or race (maybe with the exception of black women but that 8767 s a generalization. I really haven 8767 t interacted with that many black women).
9) Wants to dress like every other girl in Asia these days short, revealing shorts. I tell her any girl that wants to be my girlfriend will not dress like that in public. She resists, but eventually acquiesces, albeit resentfully.
5) Starts fights over peas and carrots. Again, this is not a Japanese thing or even Asian thing. This is just a Being A Woman thing.
I dated J-girls almost exclusively and am now married to one. Allow me to separate fact from KJ bullshit.
6. True. They 8767 re women first and Japanese second. A Japanese girl can be as big a pain in the ass as any other woman.
7. False. I have NEVER had a Japanese girl gold-dig on me or attempt to constrain my finances in any way. Author is simply repeating what he read online somewhere.
8. True. Until you figure out how Japanese communicate/argue, you will be VERY frustrated by their communication style.
9. True that they don 8767 t put that much emphasis on mental health care. Also true that they suffer way less mental illness than Westerners. This one evens out.
5. Have no kids, don 8767 t know. Does the author know this from experience? Probably not. More KJ 8767 ing.
6. False. Total bullshit. Japanese women are no more or less forthcoming sexually than any other type of woman.
With too many instances of wrongful arrest and conviction, few expect anything to come from the justice ministry 8767 s investigation. But the spotlight has begun to shine on the practices of police interrogation as well as on the court 8767 s presumption of guilt. More and more innocent victims of Japan 8767 s judicial zeal are going public with grim accounts of their experiences at the hands of the police and the court system.
I can just picture some J man, on payday, after getting drunk with his male coworkers, and banging a prostitute or two, coming home, handing his wife the paycheck, with the understanding: 8775 I trust your taking care of shit here 8776 . And then eating the home cooked meal that was waiting for him. Better than being the western 8775 SNAG 8776 who does dishes and split 8767 s household tasks 55/55.
I 8767 ve dated a few. One in particular was insane, loud and embarrassing. She couldn 8767 t understand why I wouldn 8767 t take her anywhere.
One was a card carrying, proud to be gold digger. She would hang out in hotel bars by herself to meet rich guys and would date them for a few months, enjoying all the money, gifts and dinner etc. She dated me after her last guy dumped her (via his secretary, nice). We banged for a few weeks and then she cut off contact. I wouldn 8767 t mind but I wanted my DVDs back.
QC fyi on an author you may like since you seem to be ROK 8767 s 8776 our man in asia 8776 . Check out Barry Eisler 8767 s John Rain books. John Rain is 6/7 anglo/Japanese former CIA now assassin-for-hire who lives in Japan. His travels thruout Japan are interesting. He 8767 s a Judo expert. He loves whiskey and scotch and jazz and describes these super cool jazz/scotch joints that I think really exist. The author was , for real, in the CIA 8767 s clandestine service ie a spy and was stationed in Japan. He 8767 s an assassin whose expertise is to kill people but making it look like a natural death Beach reading but entertaining
I 8767 m in Taiwan right now and would like to return next year. I had a very good time in Mainland too, have a few gfs waiting for my return, but we cannot deny that I couldn 8767 t stroll to any job like a White guy could, or get a new girl every night. They also called me racial slurs but it was ok because just as many race trolls on here say, o was banging their women, but at a reduced rate compared to what other races could get.
The conviction rate is so high not because of coerced or faked confessions or evidence (they do happen though, more than one would think) but because there are little to no Japanese prosecutors. The legal profession in Japan is amazingly hard to join. The Japanese bar exam is no snoozefest like most States 8767 . The Japanese government employs only 7,555 or so lawyers. The entire government. You know, that thing responsible for enacting legislation and shit? You can bet there are orders of magnitude more than that employed in the US government, and even more in private practice (or no practice).